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The Magic of Sharing Daily "Highs" and "Lows" with Your Kids.

8/21/20233 min read

Hey there, rockstar parents! Have you asked your kids the classic question "How was your day?" or “what did you learn today?” and you received the usual responses – "good," "okay," or the elusive "nothing." Sound familiar? Well, get ready for a game-changer! Today, I'm spilling the beans on a super fun and effective trick that's going to revolutionize your daily routine. We're diving into a heartwarming practice that's like a sprinkle of magic in your day. If you're all about creating those unforgettable moments with your little ones, you're in for a treat. So, buckle up as we set off on an adventure into the enchanting realm of sharing the "Highs" and "Lows" of the day (as my own family fondly calls it – feel free to give it a unique name that suits your crew perfectly).

The origins of this little gem elude me, but I began practicing it when my eldest turned three. It all started with a single thing she adored about her day and something that might not have gone quite as well. We dubbed it the "highs" and "lows" of the day, and from there, it organically blossomed over the years. This has now become a cherished tradition in our household, a delightful pre-bedtime ritual. It's such an integral part of our nights that my seven-year-old has even included it in her bedtime routine checklist!

The Power of Sharing: "Highs" and "Lows" of the Day

As mentioned above, we often ask our kids about their day at school or their activities, and we might get brief answers like "fine" or "good." While it's great to show interest, the "Highs" and "Lows" approach takes this a step further. It encourages your children to reflect on their day, identify moments that brought them joy, and acknowledge challenges they faced.

Why It Matters

  1. Encourages Reflection: This practice teaches your kids to reflect on their daily experiences, fostering a habit of introspection and self-awareness from an early age.

  2. Promotes Communication: By sharing their highs and lows, kids learn to express their feelings and thoughts, which is essential for healthy emotional development.

  3. Strengthens Connection: As you listen and engage with their stories, you create a safe space for them to share and open up, strengthening the parent-child bond.

  4. Problem-Solving: Discussing the lows of the day offers an opportunity to brainstorm solutions, helping kids develop problem-solving skills and resilience.

How to Implement It

  1. Set a Routine: Choose a consistent time, like before bedtime or during dinner, to gather as a family and share your highs and lows.

  2. Lead by Example: Start by sharing your own highs and lows of the day. This demonstrates vulnerability and encourages your kids to do the same.

  3. Active Listening: When your kids share their experiences, listen attentively and ask open-ended questions to delve deeper into their feelings.

  4. Create a Judgment-Free Zone: Ensure that your children feel comfortable sharing both positive and negative aspects without fear of criticism.

  5. Celebrate Achievements: Celebrate their highs, whether it's acing a test, making a new friend, or completing a challenging task.

  6. Offer Support: For their lows, offer empathy and understanding. Ask if there's anything they'd like advice or help with.

Implementing the "Highs" and "Lows" practice can transform your daily routine into a meaningful ritual. It's a simple yet powerful way to connect with your kids on a deeper level, teaching them important life skills while creating a space for open communication and emotional growth.

My kids eagerly anticipate the daily "highs" and "lows" ritual. They're aware that it's the moment when we celebrate their triumphs and address any hurdles they're encountering. During this special time, they also get a peek into Mommy and Daddy's own "highs" and "lows," recognizing that we, too, have things to celebrate and work on (all in kid-friendly terms, of course). It's truly a remarkable sight to witness your children engage in problem-solving, facing challenges head-on, and ingeniously finding ways to conquer them.

So, as you tuck your little ones into bed tonight, don't forget to ask about their highs and lows. Engage in thoughtful conversations, celebrate their triumphs, and provide comfort during their challenges. This practice isn't just about sharing moments; it's about fostering lifelong connections and building a foundation of trust that will last a lifetime. Happy sharing!